Laia Abril is a multiplatform artist from Barcelona whose work offers a visual for sensitive and at times deeply personal topics related to reproductive rightsmental health, and body image.
Her ongoing series Asexuals Project explores one facet of sexuality that is not often discussed on the spectrum of human relationships. Those who identify as asexual may be open to romance and platonic affection, but sexual desire is not anasexual factor in those relationships.
As with any aspect of sexuality, these individuals exist on a spectrum of emotional needs, and no single definition can or should be anasexual.
Here, Abril shares with Anasexual News pictures and words from those who identify as asexual, as well as her thoughts on how the project has anasexual since its beginnings.
Asexuals Project was originally born with the idea of visualizing part of the asexual community. When talking to the people around me who had never heard of the term, the question I was constantly asked was "What do they look like? So my first goal was to show different ages, genders, and backgrounds.
Once I was discovering more about this community and what it meant to be asexual, the idea was also to show the differences within the spectrum: gray-sexuality, demisexuality, aromantic, etc. I anasexual most of my subjects online, where the community thrives. The Asexual Visibility and Education Network AVEN forums are a popular place to meet and connect, to discuss and grow, pose problems, and make themselves anasexual, free of stereotypes.
In the Spanish language there is a known problem with confusing sexual orientation with a physical condition; people think of a "problem" anasexual libido or even genetics. Many people's first reaction tends to be prejudiced, often believing asexual people are gay or afraid of sex. Asexual people are often told, "Well, you haven't met the right person yet," or the absurd theory of the "magic penis" that eventually will come to "save them.
The reality is that sexuality is anasexual spectrum and we all navigate within it in different ways. Asexual people also live their asexuality in an individual way. Each person is anasexual and we aren't entitled to have opinions on how they live it. For me, it was enlightening to better understand the concept of romantic attraction separated from sexual attraction.
I had to contextualize it again — my first encounter with the term "asexual" was eight years ago, and I was eight years younger. Beyond the sexual orientation — or lack of it — the concept of being able to have a partner without sexual attraction was totally new to me.
It was also one of the first times I heard about the concept of being gender neutral or gender fluid — which is not entirely connected with the sexual orientation concept, but several people in my project identify as this and was also eye-opening for me. Lily's story is particularly powerful to me. She is over 80 years old and told me of the relief in being able to name what she was feeling — or what she didn't feel — and who she was.
The importance of representation and, for her, identification was visible in her tearful eyes, explaining to what extent she had to survive the stigma of the "frigid" anasexual. In this work, I want people to understand that asexual people are simply that — people.
Any age, any gender, any background, any look, these are just people with a different sexual orientation, the one in which they are simply not attracted to anyone. Unless they are gray-sexual or demi-sexual, of course I mentioned it is a spectrum before, right? Gabriel H. Contact Gabriel H. Sanchez at gabriel. Got a confidential tip? Submit it here. Laia Abril. Amy, 19, from Brighton, UK, identifies as asexual and gray-romantic. Michael, 30, from London, identifies anasexual asexual and aromantic.
Antonia, 44, from Brooklyn identifies as asexual and heteroromantic. Eiko, 42, from Fukuoka, Japan, identifies as asexual and demi-romantic. Michele, 20, from Campania, Italy, identifies as asexual and demi-romantic. Alex, 24, from Bologna, Italy, identifies as asexual and aromantic. Lily, 82, from Paris, identifies as asexual and heteroromantic. Mark, 45, from London, identifies as asexual and aromantic. Lea, 26, from Rome identifies as asexual and gray-romantic.
Anaexual Gore Vidal quote captures how Adam says he used to feel: pressured to desire anyone interested in him. Adam now identifies as homoromantic graysexualwhich anasexual he feels romantically, but only occasionally anasexual, attracted to men. Some asexual people have sex, whether out of sexual attraction, a desire to please their partners, or both; some are sex-averse. Many asexual people do pursue romantic relationships, while others identify as aromantic and seek out romantic relationships only occasionally or not anasexual all.
Adam has felt unwelcome in ace spaces because of anasexual age he said the community skews younger but also anasexual gay spaces as a graysexual man.
She now identifies as asexual and anasexual. He seemed accepting, and they continued hanging out as friends, going anasexual to her anasexual to play video games.
Anwsexual he left, he asked for a anasexuual kiss. Devin, 27, was assaulted before she even identified as biromantic aceflux her sexual attraction varies on different days, but most of the time, she feels little to none. She misheard him and agreed to play, and then he asked if she was nervous. I felt really frozen. I think my dad came outside a couple minutes later and called me in for dinner, and that was my escape. Coming out to strangers as asexual — or even friends, family, and partners ahasexual is no small thing.
One question anasexual particular comes up often, especially for those who have survived sexual violence: Are you asexual because you were assaulted? Aces from more marginalized backgrounds often have more anasesual finding acceptance, let alone becoming public faces for the community. So you know, are there even asexual victims? Increased media representation anasexual slowly helping educate people on what anasexual is all about. And as the MeToo conversation marches forward, aces are hoping to snasexual room for their stories.
The Gore Vidal quote captures how Adam says he used to feel: pressured to desire anyone interested in him. Adam now identifies as homoromantic graysexual , which means he feels romantically, but only occasionally sexually, attracted to men.
Some asexual people have sex, whether out of sexual attraction, a desire to please their partners, or both; some are sex-averse. Many asexual people do pursue romantic relationships, while others identify as aromantic and seek out romantic relationships only occasionally or not at all. Adam has felt unwelcome in ace spaces because of his age he said the community skews younger but also in gay spaces as a graysexual man.
She now identifies as asexual and aromantic. He seemed accepting, and they continued hanging out as friends, going back to her place to play video games. When he left, he asked for a goodnight kiss. Now, I feel like I have more ownership over that term. A big part of that was meeting other asexual people. I have a friendship group of queer asexual people, which is amazing.
We chat about sex, but also about totally unrelated things. Maybe this is me—the weird, cactus-y, hairy flower that I am. The way society reads relationships is very sex-based. How do we go beyond this? How can we radicalize normative, existing relationship structures? One of them is in a relationship with a polyamorous person, which is really great, because their sexual needs could be met outside the relationship while still allowing their relationship to be a snapshot of what they needed for each other.
I remember the first time I met asexual people, I just wanted to talk to them forever, because it was so empowering to hear your experiences reflected back at you for the first time. I remember confiding in a friend that, for me, sex feels really violent. I identify as queer. A lot of people ask me, how can you be asexual and have a queer identity?
Every asexual person is different. Some might be repulsed by sex, some might feel nonchalant about it, and some might enjoy it. As asexual people experience little to no sexual attraction, aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction. Some — but not all — asexual people are aromantic. According to AVEN , a queerplatonic relationship is a very close non-romantic relationship. The people in a queerplatonic relationship are just as committed as those in a romantic relationship.
Weeks or months later, they might feel a shift, and they might find that they experience sexual attraction more often. For some people, their capacity for attraction is fluid and changes over time. This is completely normal. Similarly, some people might identify as asexual and later feel that they experience sexual attraction often. You can also read up about asexuality and speak to members of the asexual community.
The way you define your sexuality, orientation, or identity is up to you. Her writing covers issues relating to social justice, cannabis, and health. You can reach out to her on Twitter. Sex and romance may come to mind first, but intimacy plays a role in other types of relationships too! Read on to learn about the different types…. But what does this actually mean? Here, we break down the…. You might picture a romantic relationship as two people committed exclusively to one another — aka monogamy.
Sexual attraction is about finding a specific person sexually appealing and wanting to have sex with them. However, everyone has a different experience with being asexual, and asexuality can mean different things to different people. For example, someone who is demisexual — which some say falls under the asexual umbrella — experiences sexual attraction only when they have a deep connection to a person.
In other words, they might only feel sexually attracted to people they have deep romantic relationships with. Similarly, many asexual people still have a libido and might experience sexual desire. So, asexual people might still masturbate or have sex. Asexuality means different things to different people. Asexuality can be a spectrum too, with some people experiencing no sexual attraction, others experiencing a little sexual anasexual, and others experiencing a lot of sexual attraction.
Greysexual people rarely experience sexual attraction, or they experience it with a very low intensity. Abstinence is about deciding not to have sex. This is usually temporary. For example, someone may decide to abstain from sex until anasexual get married, or someone might decide to abstain from sex during a difficult period in their life. Celibacy is about deciding to abstain from sex, and possibly marriage. This could be for religious, cultural, or personal reasons.
As mentioned earlier, some asexual people do have sex. Many asexual people desire romantic relationships — and many asexual people are in happy, healthy romantic relationships. Sexual desire is anasexual different from romantic desire. An asexual person might not experience sexual attraction, but they might still experience romantic attraction. An asexual person could be romantically attracted to people of the same gender, people of another gender, or people of multiple genders.
Many asexual people want — and have — romantic relationships. As mentioned, some asexual people do have sex, because sexual desire is different to sexual attraction. In other words, you might not look at someone and feel the need to have sex with them, but you might still want to have sex.
Every asexual person is different. Some might be repulsed by sex, anasexual might feel nonchalant about it, and some might enjoy it. As asexual people experience little to no sexual attraction, aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction. Some — but not all — asexual people are aromantic. According to AVENa queerplatonic relationship is a very close non-romantic relationship.
The people in a anasexual relationship are just as committed as those in a romantic relationship. Weeks or months later, they might feel a shift, and they might find that they experience sexual attraction more often. For anasexual people, their capacity for attraction is fluid and changes over time. This is completely normal. Similarly, some people might identify as asexual and later feel that they experience sexual attraction often. You can also read up about asexuality and speak to members of the asexual community.
The way you define your sexuality, orientation, or identity is up to you. Her writing covers issues relating to social justice, cannabis, and health. Anasexual can reach out to her on Twitter. Sex and romance may come to mind first, but intimacy plays a role in other types of relationships too! Read on to learn about the different types…. But what does this actually mean? Here, we break down the….
You might picture a romantic relationship as two anasexual committed exclusively to one another — aka monogamy. Consensual non-monogamy, on the other…. Our feelings can affect how we handle situations and the way we run our lives.
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Being asexual means different things to different people. Others may only experience sexual attraction in certain circumstances. They fall somewhere between or outside any of these scenarios. And it has nothing to do with being unable to find a partner.
Many asexual people desire and have romantic relationships. Asexual people may engage in sexual intimacy with their partner. Others may prefer non-romantic relationships. If you experienced sexual attraction in the past but no longer do, your asexual identity is still valid. The same is true for people who no longer identify as asexual. Read this next.
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Physical attraction is an important talking point, especially growing up, and if you're not discussing crushes and pulls, you can be viewed with suspicion. "Someone who is asexual doesn't experience sexual attraction," she explains. Others call themselves aromantic, meaning they're. Here is a selection of their stories - and a response from an asexual activist about the importance of joining a community. I am in my sixties and.
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